Dating a guy in the police academy

25 July 2018

“The job can become the big thing in the relationship” 

But it's not necessarily about finding someone exactly in your field, i.e. policing, but a profession that complements it. 

Psychologists voice how your career choices and spending philosophy impact your relationships. Matchmaking finances and career choices are two of the most under-communicated parts of a healthy relationship. Police are drawn to bankers and teachers, according to a recent BBC article. It explores the reasons why people should focus on the career that’s their perfect match. 

Married… to your work.

Policing is a tough gig. The last thing you want is to come home and hear complaints about being ‘absent.’ It’s one thing to regularly work demanding hours, but it can up-end your personal life when those extra hours are unexpected.

To keep relationship stress low, Davis recommends updating partners as soon as possible on potential work conflicts and taking initiative when it comes to rescheduling plans.

It’s great if your partner is understanding. The police life, in any of its forms, is not selfish. There’s no such thing as a straight eight-hour day, for yourself or your family. Keep this in mind, at all times.

While you can’t help who you fall in love with, it’s good to understand the type of person you need your partner to be, and vice versa. Navigating holidays, date nights and romance, always fighting for time, and putting your kids first takes conscious effort.

‘You’re married to an officer…’

It takes a certain type of person to remain consistently patient, understanding and selfless, regardless of the circumstance. Take time and remember to appreciate each day and do your best to show your partner they’re appreciated.

You have a unique opportunity to define your relationship in whatever terms you want. Don’t lose sight and forget that there’s a lot you still do have control of.

It comes back to the atmosphere you create at home (both emotionally and physically).

What’s your home saying about your relationship? 

Reference: Fran Davis, psychologist and career counsellor who works with Harvard Business School students and alumni.